How to improve self control
Expert sources (3)
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The Science of Making & Breaking Habits: How to Change Your Life in 1 Month
James ClearHabits author - 2
How To BREAK BAD HABITS & Get 1% Better EVERYDAY | Charles Duhigg
Charles DuhiggJournalist and author - 3
Daniel Goleman on Focus: The Secret to High Performance and Fulfilment
Dr. Daniel GolemanPsychologist
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Summary
Improving self-control relies more on reducing temptations through environment design than on raw willpower. Design your surroundings to tempt you less, decide ahead of time with implementation intentions, add friction to unwanted behaviors, pause between impulse and action, and frame choices around autonomy instead of strict bans.
James Clear's point is that self-control is less about raw willpower and more about building an environment where you are tempted less often 1. A few practical strategies:
- Design your environment: Remove temptations from your surroundings, like keeping certain foods out of the house, and spend more time with people who model the behavior you want 1.
- Use implementation intentions: Charles Duhigg suggests deciding ahead of time, while your head is clear, so the choice is already made before the temptation shows up 2.
- Increase friction: Add steps and barriers between you and the unwanted behavior so it is harder to do.
- Practice cognitive control: Daniel Goleman points to lengthening the gap between impulse and action: pause, think through the consequences, and pick the best option 3.
- Frame choices around autonomy: Instead of strict, absolute bans that make you fixate, remind yourself you are in control and are simply choosing to hold off for a short stretch.
Design your environment to reduce temptation and friction: remove obvious temptations, spend time with people whose habits you want to emulate, and decide ahead of time how you'll act before the temptation arrives.